Looking beyond “success” and “failure”

This is the post I dreaded writing…and that ended up practically writing itself in the end.

I held two Dancing Mamas events this month. One last weekend, and one the weekend before. This was my second try…you can read about my first try and the lessons I learned here.

So…how did these ones go?

Just like last time, that depends on how you look at it.

Were they jam-packed money-making name-establishing phenomenons?


Did I get to dance with people I love, reconnect with someone I haven’t seen in years, and learn at least a dozen lessons to apply the next time I try?

Oh, yes. Absolutely.

Notebook full of notes. So many lessons!

On July 17 I set up in an absolutely beautiful studio just outside of Halifax. And no mamas came. But (and this is a Big Deal) one old student did come. This month I finally emailed all of my old DansKinetics students from back in 2007, and one of them was so excited to dance with me that she came out to Dancing Mamas. We had an amazing chat and a really great dance together. I played a completely different playlist just for her and me, and it was awesome.

The whole afternoon reminded me how much I loved the classes I offered when I was pregnant and how amazing the people were. It made me want to revisit the classes I offered that time around. It reminded me that you don’t always have to reinvent the wheel, even when you’re revamping your business. Thank you, Martina, for coming out and dancing with me.

On July 23 I set up in a crowded library in a residential area of suburban Halifax. And I ended up dancing with my old ballet studio-mate Omni and my friend Kerry and her small son Jonah. We had a fantastic time boogieing and chasing Jonah around.

I learned so much that afternoon: about how I was experiencing severe (and I do mean severe) resistance to really embracing the possibility of success, how I’m not sure if I have the details of Dancing Mamas quite right, about how the next time I try a library class I think I want to make it either free or as close to free as I can because it feels wrong to do otherwise.

And I also learned about the things I’ll bring next time: dry erase markers and extra business cards and cups for the water fountain. And about how awesome, supportive, and truly loving my friends are.

You can’t put a price on what I learned.

A handful of precious (and unexpected) gifts.

So, was the second round of Dancing Mamas Tribes a success?

I think that might be the wrong question.

It was exactly what I needed at this time and under these circumstances.

And that’s all that matters.

7 thoughts on “Looking beyond “success” and “failure””

  1. Meg, you have such an awesome attitude!

    Jonah and I had a lot of fun! He’s never spent so much time hanging upside-down. 😉 Thank you, and I hope our input will help you find the solutions you’re searching for.

  2. Slowly but surely! Think of all the authors out there who sent their books to dozens of publishers, getting rejected again and again. And then with the acceptance of one editor, suddenly the book is being featured on Oprah!

    Have you looked into advertising the group on Meetup (http://www.meetup.com/). My 5Rhythms group uses this as its main communication vehicle, and new people are constantly signing up. It may take months before they actually decide to come to a class, but it’s nice to know the interest is there.

    1. OOH! No! I never thought about Meetup, even though I’m sure you’d mentioned it before on your blog. I think I assumed it was an American thing, but I just went over there, and there are some things in Halifax that *I* want to go to! I’m going to have to look into this! Thank you!!!

      And you’re so right about the book publishing thing. One step at a time, and focus on the lessons, that’s what I keep telling myself. 🙂

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